Three Simple Steps To Get Anything You Want

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”

— Unknown

As a kid, you have no qualms about letting people know what you want. If there's not an orange popsicle unwrapped in my hands in the next minute, I'm going to burn this entire house down. You get good at asking for material things you want because they fill an immediate need and are easy to ask for. But have you ever sat down to answer the question of what do you want to experience in your life?

I went thirty years without having the slightest bit of direction for what I wanted from life. I strapped on a pair of water-wings and hoped the breeze of the ocean would take me to a land where the grass was greener. 

It never came. 

Each shore provided more of what I didn't want. 

A job that provided nothing more than a paycheque. 

A relationship that I didn't want to be in. 

An endless party to fill my unquenchable thirst for feeling alive. 

Let's say for a second that you win the chance to plan your dream vacation.

You're given a big fat budget with zero restrictions. To keep it simple, you're going to break it into three steps. If you don't follow these steps, it will stay a dream vacation.

1. The dreams you have.

2. The plans you make.

3. The actions you take.

First, let's put your dreams in a perspective that means something. That single little mark, the dash (-) on a tombstone, represents two possibilities for your life. 

One possibility as Hunter S Thompson describes it: “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming 'Wow! What a Ride!'" 

The other represents a life of unfulfilled dreams, hopes, desires, and goals that you convinced yourself were too risky to pursue. 

Before your brain starts naming off a million different reasons why your dream isn't feasible, let's indulge a little. I promise that you won't gain weight, lose your job, or have to start relying on your daily horoscope. 

I'll even offer you a 100% money-back guarantee. Hell, I'll write you a cheque for ten grand, let you name my first kid and glue feathers to my entire body. I'll spend the rest of my life living like an ostrich if anything bad happens. 

Remember, this is your dream vacation. It can be whatever the hell you want it to be. 

People tend to get lost in the dreaming part of things because where the hell do you even start?

When I started to think of what I wanted to experience in my life, I found it much easier to ask What do you want your days to look like? 

What good is a dream if you don't get to experience the good parts every day? 

I'm sure it didn't seem impossible to suspend "real life" for a moment and think of a dream vacation. It probably felt pretty good to escape for a moment and think of what you'd do. 

What if instead of winning a dream vacation, you had the chance to design a life you didn't need to escape from?

That's where the planning part comes in. It's not nearly as difficult as you think. Start by reading What Are The Five Most Important Things In Your Life? 

How many people do you know who fantasize about living a better life, make vision boards and tell everyone about their plans, but never take action? 

Not a single thing you read means a damn thing unless you put what you learn into practice. 

You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.

Ready to make a change? Schedule a free, no-obligation, maybe even fun talk about what's going on. My aim is to help you gain clarity into what's important in your life by narrowing in on your priorities, identifying what's getting in your way, and creating a plan so you can take action on what will have the greatest impact in your life.

Ted Danson was struggling to find work in New York like every other actor before he landed the role of Sam Malone in Cheers, but he never let it kill his desire to continue.

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