It's easy to forget how powerful a single experience can be in shaking us awake. Lit by the glow of candles dancing across bricks hand-laid a hundred or so years ago, I sat on a cushion with 75 strangers for a night of mindfulness and meditation in a converted spice factory. I'll probably never see any of them again, but it left me feeling the opposite of a night of social media. I felt fulfilled and rejuvenated. When's the last time you said that after spending time on your phone?

You've probably heard the advice you need to trust the journey a million times before. But what if your life and business aren't meeting your expectations? What if the life you dream of having feels no closer to reality than it did a year ago? If you don't like some part of your life, it's time to make changes and new choices that put you on a path to a purposeful life. It starts by asking the question, who do you want to become?

What popped into your head with the title of this piece? All I could think was, how did I never think of this before? The words leapt off the page in the midst of devouring Atomic Habits by James Clear. Clear is one of the world’s leading experts in the formation of habits. It makes so much damn sense. Your goal is not what makes you successful, your habits are. That's your system to success. Success is the eventual measure of good habits.

A close friend is struggling. He's feeling overwhelmed in his job. It's affecting his home life. His boss expects a lot and never gives credit for the little wins. He's expected to work long hours, have perfect execution and know exactly what to do at all times. He feels like he has to say yes to everything that comes across his desk. Do you feel sympathy for what he's going through? Of course you do! You're not a heartless bastard. We can't help but feel compassion for a friend being in a position like this. Here's the problem... we all have a boss like this. The world’s worst boss is you (and me).

My mind was a couple of miles ahead of us, thinking about the business, what I had to do, and how I couldn't wait for it to take off. In an effort to bring myself back to the moment, I turned to my Dad riding beside me and asked: "Is there anything you'd do differently when you were my age?" His advice helped me see that sometimes we get so caught up in trying to accomplish something big, that we fail to notice all the little things that give life its magic.

It's time to focus on what matters. The modern world will throw everything imaginable at you with time-consuming temptations. No matter who you are, you're given twenty-four-hours at the strike of twelve. Nothing more. Nothing less. Whatever you focus your time on is a decision of how you want to spend your energy. Energy is the currency of a happy, healthy, purpose-driven life. The point is: Don't exchange what you want most for what you kind of want at the moment.