How long will you put off what you are capable of doing just to continue what you are comfortable doing? Author James Clear posed that question in a recent newsletter. I felt like Dorothy entering the Emerald City, and the booming voice of Oz the Great and Powerful had just asked me what business I had in being here. There's a life I dream of that is quite different from the one I'm living. You too? Where does your yellow brick road lead?Read More
Perfection is the enemy of progress. Over the last two years, I've written nearly 200,000 words. That's enough to fill an 800-page book. Yet, if you had sat me down with the expectations of churning out a Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix by years end, I would have had a melt-down. Hell, there's a lot of weeks where putting out this blog feels like I'm trying to tackle a giant.Read More
What would it mean for your sense of purpose to go to bed feeling effective and knowing your work has contributed to the world? Does it feel like an impossible dream? We're not talking crossing off a couple of things from your to-do list. We're talking about following through on things that are actually important to you. Priorities that light you up.
You could map out where you'd like to be in your career in the next couple of years. You could start a side hustle. You could spend the free time you have to do things with the people you love. But first, let's accept the fact that creating a life where this is possible is going to take some hard work. But there's a right way and wrong way to go about doing it.Read More
I doubt you have many friends who understand what you're trying to do. They pass your business off as a hobby. It's anything but that to you. It's your ticket to freedom. You've tasted what it feels like to not answer to anyone but yourself. It's having the creative freedom to show up as your unapologetic self. There's something you can't explain to people who've never gone all in. Once you've found something you love doing, the money is secondary. It's like a sweet bonus. But the catch twenty-two is the obvious need to make money. How do you find the drive to keep going when you still don't see the light at the end of the tunnel?Read More
You can't help but see why so many of us collapse into exhaustion when we crawl into bed at night. When you look over your list of shit-to-do, how much of your life is being directed by outside forces? Are everyone else's priorities competing with your own?Read More
It's tempting to live as though life will go on forever. When goals are our sole focus we forget to appreciate each and every moment. The hourglass gives us a false sense of time, in that each grain of sand will drop one by one and we'll always know how much time we have left. In reality, life spills through our fingers like sand from a smashed hourglass. It's why we're willing to put off calling our Mom, or quick to cancel on a friend because we had a long day at work. We're willing to sacrifice now for some distant fantasy future where we have time to do all the things we want. You can have anything you want, but you can't have everything you want. The days can be long, but the decades are blurs.Read More
That book you wanted to write, the side hustle you wanted to take full time, the website you wanted to create? It seemed like such a good idea at the time. Now, weeks or months into it, you’re playing whack-a-mole with all the damn commitments you have in your life. You don't have the luxury of sitting in a cabin to write uninterrupted for days at a time. Your side hustle isn't making enough money to pay the mortgage, keep the lights on and eat more than ramen noodles. It seems like every time you finish a task, two more pop up in its place. You're starting to feel like the more you do, the more there is to do.Read More
You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. Don't let the simplicity of this statement fool you into thinking it's just a clever play on words. The man who wrote those words had his first book rejected 39 times before it was published in 1975. Zig Ziglar's See You At The Top, went on to sell over 1.6 million copies and is widely used by corporations, schools, government agencies, and correctional institutions-wherever motivation and self-improvement are major goals. The scariest part of an idea is starting because entrepreneurs like you dream big. You probably have a larger than life vision of your idea that seems almost impossible. The secret to turning the impossible into possible? You need an idea of where to start and what to focus on.Read More
Do you ever feel like you're trying and trying and trying and nothing's happening? You feel like you're working so hard, putting in the time, making a heroic effort, and yet, you're not seeing results. Part of why it takes so long for change to happen is avoidance of facing the harshness of the present moment. The feelings that swirl around when you give it your all, but don't see results is soul-crushing. It's like wolves eating and spitting out the bones in the midst of a feeding frenzy. Not as violent, but just as raw.Read More
You can achieve more while working less. But to make that possible, you have to make sure that the less you do matters more.
Every year has an inescapable date that carries a not-so-subtle reminder that life is going fast and you're one year older. And in a society that's driven by speed and doing, life begins to blur as we mistake busyness for importance. We forget what it's like to sit in peace, without chasing down our next project, idea, or task someone needs from us.
We look at someone with a bursting-at-the-seams schedule and assume they're thriving. But are they really?Read More
What if this was posed to you as an actual question with real consequences? Change or die. I'm not talking about the emotional pull or feelings of a finite life that comes from watching a Pixar movie. You walk away, changed for a day or afternoon or at least until you fall back into your old routine. I'm talking about actual life and death. One day you're laughing, living, breathing, and the next, blackness. Does it feel like a no brainer?Read More
The ability to tap into hyper-connected devices has led to many of us feeling like we've lost the ability to step away from work. A dangerous belief to adopt as a recent Fast Company article alluded that, more young people are defining themselves by what they do–and who they work for. Work has become the millennial religion of choice. If you're not working, who the hell are you?Read More
I'm forever at odds with technology because I fall into the camp of being a tech nerd, but it's so damn easy to overindulge. Crack open a Costco-size bag of chips and you'll find me battling with knowing when to say I've had enough. The smartphone is the mental equivalent of junk food if you're not intentional with how you use it. It's far too easy to reach the bottom of the bag and realize you've been mindlessly consuming for hours.Read More
Unless you're born a Kardashian, your business has to make money. This isn't about saving face or looking stupid if your business tanks. Your business is your livelihood. You won't have much luck surviving if your business consistently runs in the red. But chasing profit as the be-all-end-all North Star won't be enough to sustain you as an entrepreneur. The key to your success is to find a mission that fuels your rocket with a sustainable source of energy.Read More
Are you ready to escape the spiral of constant busyness, refocus your attention, and get more done in less time without sacrificing what matters most to you?Read More
I'm about to make an audacious statement about you that you might not believe (yet). Whatever you think your creative capacity is, it's nowhere near what you're capable of. You might feel like you're revving into the red line of your capability, but I can tell you from my experience of working with creatives from all walks of life, you've only just begun. By the end of this essay, you'll have three new daring principles that fly in the face of convention. Adopt them as your own and you too will step into the shoes of the courageous creatives you admire (no matter what stage of the journey you're in).Read More
I love bold directives that force russian-roulette like emotional intensity to own the decision in the moment. So many of us sit on fences, pretending we can put decisions off, and ignore the massive drain this has on our lives. If you find yourself in exactly the same place you are a year from now, is that a good thing or bad thing in your eyes?Read More
There's a near 100 percent chance that whoever you are, you're not living the exact life you'd like. And I'd like to tell you, that's not only okay, but it's precisely where you need to be to figure out what you want to do with the next stage of your life. Heralded as one of the greatest rappers of this generation, you'd think J Cole would have a sense of comfort and contentment. Yet J Cole feels like he's constantly in a state of flux. The chase to remain relevant in an industry ripe with archaic rules of engagement is a good ol' game of cat and mouse that I'm sure you can relate to.Read More
Do you have a set of specific and empowering ways to make yourself feel good at a moment's notice? Can you accomplish this without the use of devouring a cheeseburger, downing some booze, getting high, hacking cigarettes or other addictive vices within an arm’s reach of any of us? I sure as hell didn't.Read More
What if striving to be great is what's holding you back. Brad Stulberg dropped this truth bomb in a piece featured in Outside magazine. He went on to say, "We’re told that striving to be great and never being satisfied are necessary to meet the ever increasing pressures and pace of today’s world. It’s the only route to success. But what is it all for? What does success even mean?" I latched onto his thinking like a fly trapped in a spiderweb. I found myself entangled without a way to escape the grasp of what I had believed up until this point.Read More